How did you meet your significant other?

Nastashal — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 13:49:23 +0000

Provide inspiration for those of us who are wondering if it'll ever really happen. I'm single, and I wonder, how do people actually find someone? You never know, these stories could help with the writing process, too!

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Baskinator — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 14:16:14 +0000

I met my husband through a forum for a video game company.

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A.L. More — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 14:39:41 +0000

Online, Yahoo Personals. He wanted to meet me because I mentioned never having my GameBoy out of my sight, and I wanted to meet him because of the long-assed email he sent three times to make sure I got it. He got a paid account JUST to send that message, so I kinda had to see what this guy was about :) That was just over six years ago.

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MissMidgard — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 15:00:18 +0000

On an online forum for a metal band. We first got talking when he made a post about something I was really interested in (Faroese language!) and we got talking via PM then MySpace. A group of us went to a festival in Germany, and I met him for the first time in person there. I had butterflies in my stomach in the ten minutes or so before I was going to meet him and I remember seeing him for the first time, and it was actually a little bit like love at first sight. We became a couple exactly a year later, and we're now married. :) It can happen at any time - I was with someone else when I met him, which was bad timing - but that relationship ended of its own accord - so don't panic or sit there believing that you'll never find someone!

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sweetproserpina — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 16:47:37 +0000

I'll add to the online vote... I met my DH ten! years ago online through Lavalife of all places. We both cheated and put our email addresses in our posts. :) We met in person only a week later for our first date and the rest is history. Now we're married with a sweet 2yr old DD. I used to be so shy about saying we met online- and now it seems more the norm than anything!

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Lady_Indis_Dress — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 17:34:31 +0000

Introduced by his cousin (a former classmate of mine) at the county fair.

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collide — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 18:21:21 +0000

Not even lying: Went to Church with a friend because he asked me to (I'm not Christian, but he asked politely, so whatever), and there were 4 hobos outside the church flying a sign that said, "Traveling broke and hungry, God Bless." When I went to give them a few dollars I ended up hanging out with them, driving them to a city 2 hours away, and spending the weekend with them. One of them became my significant other.

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Tachibana_Eri — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 20:01:48 +0000

His parents taught my parents in college (but no, we're actually the same age; his parents waited forever to have kids). We knew each other when we were kids and hit it off in our mid/late teens. We've been together six years and just got married. Freaky side-note; my little sister just married his little brother. And no, there was NOT a double wedding, lol.

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chessapphire — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 20:50:24 +0000

While we're in the vein of odd match-ups, I'll add the story of my Indian friend Vivek, who met a pretty girl in Thailand and asked her to marry him within a day. Only problem was, they didn't speak each other's languages, so they spent half an hour running around trying to find someone to translate, and once she realized what he was asking she said yes :) Now they're happily married and raising their two kids in a Buddhist village near Tibet. You never know when true love will hit!

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Bovver — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 21:15:51 +0000

I went to a housewarming party: my friend Carrie was moving in with a girl named Cheyanne, so two different groups of friends were going. I was on a blind date that afternoon near Carrie's house and it ended a little early, so I just headed over to the party. There was only one other person there and it was a guy I didn't know because he was from Cheyanne's group of friends, and since Carrie and Cheyanne were busy in the kitchen, I had no choice but to talk to him. I don't think I spoke to anyone else that night, I was so enamored with him :) We've been dating for over a year and we live together. Awwww....

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Jessica_the_Overachiever — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 21:30:46 +0000

He was my sister's dance partner in a summer musical. She found out we read the same books (notably Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy), and insisted we talk to each other. We're getting married next October. As P.G. Wodehouse said, "There is no surer foundation for a beautiful friendship than a mutual taste in literature."

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Kaleidoscope27 — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 23:30:49 +0000

He was a first year at uni, I was a second year and I was his flat's "corridor rep" (basically a second or third year volunteer to be assigned to keep an eye on a first year flat to make sure they're doing okay.) I met him on his first day at uni and it took 16 days for him to kiss me. I remember it well.... I was good friends with his flat and myself and my co-corridor rep had joined them for dinner one evening. My boyfriend was at a band audition and showed up at the end. I had to leave to go and do work in the library on the computer 'cause my laptop wasn't working and he said he'd walk me there. He didn't even remember where the library was xD We got outside and he touched my arm, said "come here," and kissed me. Then he went back to his flat. Needless to say, my work didn't get done. I just went in, went on a computer, logged into MSN and squealed to any friends I could find online. That was in 2006 when we were both 19 and we're still going strong :)

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ellejaysays — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 23:31:34 +0000

My current boyfriend is my best friend's older brother. We started talking over a car (he was going to sell me a car when I passed my driving test). We went out for drinks a couple of times and got to know each other, then I guess that lead to seeing each other. For a while I thought I'd always be single but it just suddenly happened - I'm sure it'll just suddenly happen for you, too :)

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DarkAngel — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 23:38:52 +0000

My parents had known his parents for years, since I was pretty small, but we'd never actually met. My dad worked with his mum, my sister sometimes played with his sister, but we'd never actually met each other. And then one day when I was fifteen his family came over to my parents place, and he came along too. We got talking, and pretty much didn't stop talking all evening. We were friends pretty much instantly. It took almost a year before we became more than friends, but we've been together almost five years now.

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alicerabbits — Tue, 15 Nov 2011 23:58:44 +0000

I met mine on Yahoo! Personals as well. We've been together nine years now. Gee...now that sounds like a long time.

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alicerabbits — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 00:03:02 +0000

Online. Through Yahoo! Personals. He saw my add and thought I was cute. And we've been together ever since...that's nine years.

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May-Day_Aura — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 01:28:46 +0000

I met my fiancee through our high school theatre my sophomore and his junior year. I was cast as the stage manager for a production and he was cast as the assistant stage manager. I didn't recognize his name on the list (though I knew everyone else) so I asked around about him since we'd be working together for the next few months. Turns out we had mutual best friends that introduced us one afternoon before the production's rehearsals officially started. We hit it off instantly becoming best friends since we were both nerdy and shared a lot of the same interests. We didn't start dating til my senior year though. We've known each other for 10 years, but have only been an "official" couple for 7 years. =)

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sardonica — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 04:04:49 +0000

Based on some of the previous posts, my relationship is pretty new (not quite seven months), but the story goes: I work in construction and at the beginning of this year my company sent me to work on a project at a uranium mine in the north of the province. We call this a "camp job" because there's no town or city nearby and everyone lives together in what basically amounts to a dormitory (but with worse bedrooms and arguably better food). This isn't 100% relevant to the story, I'm just trying to stress that this was a pretty remote location. About a month and a half after I arrived, a blond, ginger-bearded young man arrived on site to help out with quality control. I noticed that he had some geeky tendencies, and thought that we could probably get along. A month later, he asked if I'd be interested in going for a beer since he "owed me" for printing him drawings and ordering office supplies and various other things that are just in my job description (he wasn't very subtle about the whole thing). I figured I'd give him a shot, drinks went really well, and a couple weeks after that we were officially a couple. He really got a lot luckier than I did, because the ratio of men to women up there was ridiculous and I probably couldn't've failed to get together with someone. I feel a little awkward about the fact that I'm technically dating one of my coworkers, but we've been on separate jobs since the beginning of June for the most part, so it's not too bad. But don't despair, if you're not or haven't been in a relationship. We were both officially single for four years before we got together (we're both 25). These things, in my experience, tend to happen suddenly when you don't expect them. Even if you're dating online. It seems like nothing's clicking, and then BAM! you suddenly have great chemistry with somebody. Basically just continue being awesome, be open to new experiences, and hopefully something will come up. :) Oh, and I heard probably the best How We Met story of all time tonight: There's a men's rugby team here that puts on a strip show as a fundraiser every year, and the players do the stripping. They don't all strip completely naked, most of them keep a sock over their, err, man parts. In recent years, the show has sold out, and the only way to get a ticket is to know someone on the team. My friend went to the most recent one because she got tickets through the girlfriend (let's call her Amanda) of one of the players (let's call him Brad). Amanda and Brad met at last year's strip show. Amanda and Brad met at last year's strip show because at last year's strip show, Brad managed to lose his sock. Bonus for everyone who's as immature as I am: Brad's actual name is Peter.

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Ellyndia — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 04:06:19 +0000

Online, on a forum for our college. (We were both going to be freshmen.) He wrote a post about wanted to start a D&D group. I said I'd be interested. A few months pass and I forget I made that post... that is, until I received a phone call from a strange person, asking whether I still wanted to play D&D. I said yes. That was nearly seven years ago; we are now married :)

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wildecross — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 05:21:39 +0000

What i thought was a one-night stand has led to uh... I think we've been together 6 1/2 years now.

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Kaydon_the_dinosaur — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 07:14:04 +0000

Met him the first day of college. I didn't know anyone so the spiritual adviser in the girls dorm dragged me around and the guys' spiritual adviser was doing the same with him. We ate lunch together and I was like, "what sort of 18 year old has a full beard?" I even remember telling my boyfriend at the time about the "weirdo with a beard." We ran in similar circles for the next few years but we didn't really hang out until he lived with a friend of mine and made me dinner a few times when I visited. I always had wanted a boy who cooked for me so we started going out. A few years after graduation we got married. I am now a fan of beards on guys.

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Moeli — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 19:52:26 +0000

We met in 8th grade...roughly 9 years later, we're married.

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J.E.Blackworth — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 19:58:31 +0000

Through the internet. I wrote very morally and historically questionable stories back then and published them shamelessly on deviantArt, then my girlfriend came to comment on them. And... that's how it all started. One and a half years of long distance relationship, and I love her to death.

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J.Kievsky — Wed, 16 Nov 2011 20:05:54 +0000

On a Taglit-Birthright Israel trip. We were both attending the same university in the US at the time (I was an undergrad, he was an MBA) but we had to go halfway around the world to meet each other.

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JasminePipher — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 01:23:51 +0000

i met my husband in grade 9 or 10, and thought he was kinda ugly and weird. we went to the same high school, the same church and youth group, and our parents were friends. the first time we were invited for dinner my parents teased me that they had a son my age, and when we got there, and i realized the connection i was like, oh THAT guy.... then in grade 12 we became friends via our best friends who started going out (and were also later married). but i dumped him a while later cause i felt the attraction was lacking and didn't feel very into him. we pretty much didn't talk after that. several boyfriends, a couple cross-country moves, and 6 years later, we met up for a visit among other friends. a year later we were married! he was a lot cuter by then haha he waited a long time to get me back! (and ironically enough, he thought i was funny-looking and awkward in high school)

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JessicaKarli — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 02:28:38 +0000

So I was kind of on the rebound, and was spending a lot of time with this guy. I guess you could call him my boyfriend. I wanted to meet some of his friends, one day I was on the phone to him and said how wouldn't it be funny if he married my sister and I married his friend Luke. After I said this I asked for Luke's number. (He didn't want to give it to me at first since I said about marrying him LOL!) I started texting Luke when I was 15, and long story short, 4 years later the boy I mentioned at the beginning was the best man at my wedding with Luke! It's funny how these things work out!

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Nastashal — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 02:52:34 +0000

Wow, you all have such great stories!

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Saelem — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 06:26:23 +0000

It was December 28th. I had spent the entire Thanksgiving/xmas holiday alone, and for the first time in my life too. My roommates had all gone home to their families but because at the time I was dead broke and 3k miles away I couldn't go home to see mine, so my faithful dog companion and I spent the better part of 2 1/2 months alone in a city where we knew nobody. I had been drinking ( a lot) and was playing some warcraft with one of my friends in Maryland. Basically, for those of you who are unfamiliar you have the option to be paired with 4 random strangers to defeat small dungeons, and this happened to be where we met. My (now) bf was one of the random people we were paired with, and when I get drunk I tend to get chatty, and was running my mouth and being a general ridiculous ball of hyper energy. The entire group caught onto my contagious energy and we were all having a blast, and at this point him and I had started to engage in a private conversation, this went on all evening and we added each other on facebook to talk even more. At this point way late into the night I was drunk enough I just gave him my phone number and we texted for a few days. he called me for the first time on new years eve to tell me happy new years which ended up in a 6 hour phone call. The next month he flew out to meet me for my birthday and we haven't looked back since. Just a month ago I moved from FL to Louisianna to make the distance bearable, and now we live together. ^.^

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.Silje. — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 21:16:34 +0000

We met at a concert through a mutual friend, and we were the only people in the groups we were with that wanted to get closer to the stage. I got pushed in every direction, so he put his arm around me to protect me and we ended up kissing. There hasn't been a day I haven't talked to him since, and we've been together exactly a year today.

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idle-dream — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 23:01:38 +0000

Mine is a little weird. We met at a charity "zombie walk" where everyone dressed up as a zombie and walked around town to raise money. He was a friend of a friend, but that's where we met. Haha.

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all_hollows — Thu, 17 Nov 2011 23:52:56 +0000

In a bar. No joke, I was always one of those people who did NOT wan to meet her future husband in a bar. I always figured it would happen at a coffee shop or book store. It was in 2007 when I was a junior in college. My roommate went to high school with his roommate and we started a long distance relationship that lasted until 2010 until we moved in together. Oh yeah. He proposed last April and we're getting married in July of 2012. So, to those that don't think it will happen in a bar...shame on you.

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Lauren E. Mitchell — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 03:39:23 +0000

We were in the stage version of Terry Pratchett's Men at Arms that a theatre group at our university put on back in 2003. He was Captain Carrot and I was Lady Sybil. I was overburdened with an abusive partner at the time, but meeting my current partner was the catalyst to get out of that relationship and into this one, and we're still going strong over eight years later (we got married in October 2007).

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Krykit — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 04:34:45 +0000

I met my fiance, Kyle, at a live action role playing game. He was friends with a lot of the people in that group from high school, but he'd moved to South Carolina. He was up for a visit, and came to the session to observe. I remember that I was playing a rich Broadway star, so I was dressed to the nines. At the time, I was dating his friend Adam, but I apparently caught his eye as he watched us play. About half a year later, my relationship with Adam ended badly, and shortly after that, Kyle moved back up here, and when he heard that I was single again, he asked me out. Then this past February, he took me out to the same restaurant he'd taken me for my birthday (REALLY nice German Cuisine), and gave me a box of chocolates. He told me which one to eat first, so I did. And underneath the piece of chocolate, he'd hidden the engagement ring.

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TeaLights — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 07:21:13 +0000

I volunteered for a Harry Potter Day Camp when I was fifteen, and he was working it as Professor Sprout(Professor Pomona Sprout's nephew) and I was a Hufflepuff Prefect and we barely paid attention to each other. I didn't see him again until he was a Student Teacher at my high school when I was in grade 12, and he told me they still needed volunteers at the camp, so I volunteered for March Break and the following summer and had a HUGE crush on him. We became sort of friends but only hung out when a group from camp were hanging out. Then on my 21st birthday we reconnected because he was working with a friend of mine, and this time things just fell into place. We were friends for a while, dated 'officially' for five months, were engaged for 14 months, and now we've been married for almost four months! It's crazy how things work out. =D

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Reaven — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 13:43:29 +0000

Well, he's not my significant other anymore, we broke up last year and we're best friends now, but it's still a lovely story; One day I just packed my bag and bought a ticket to London during my summer hols. I was so tired of just sitting around, waiting for some-one to have time to join me, so I'd just upped and left on my own to explore London. The second day I spend there, I got horribly lost and halted a stranger to ask for directions back to Hyde Park, where my hotel was near and he said; 'Well, that's no fun, going back to your hotel. Let me show you London.' And he did. He brought me to the airport after two weeks and I told him; 'Text me, when you're in the Netherlands. And I'll show you Amsterdam.' Received a text the next day, 'ready? Landing in three hours.' Best summer of my life, hopping to and fro London. <3 We've been together for five years.

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monquito — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 16:40:41 +0000

I met my husband at work. We both worked at a law school in different departments. Our departments never interacted but we had a mutual friend outside of work who kept urging us to meet. Finally after months of hounding we did and we hit it off instantly! It was shocking, and something I never believed in myself. After only knowing me for 72 hours he asked if I would like to "skip the whole dating thing and just have a relationship." I said yes, and then proceeded to endure 3 days of panic attacks. That was over 6 years ago. We just got married on Saturday! It can happen, guys! (But don't let them make you wait so long until the marriage if you can help it, because being married is pretty awesome. He said yesterday that if he knew it would feel so good, he would have wanted to do it years ago.)

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Anastasia — Fri, 18 Nov 2011 19:32:11 +0000

He went on the school trip to Italy with a bunch of my friends when he was in Grade 12 and we were in Grade 11. He starting to hang out with them upstairs after they got back. We started talking in a group then and three weeks later he added me on MSN, where the first thing he said was that my favourite hockey team sucked (it was true, they were about to be swept). That was the evening of Tuesay, April 15th. Exactly three weeks later, I was trying to get him to tell me who he liked and we agreed to start swapping hints. It was obvious that it was each other from really early on, but neither of us wanted to guess and be wrong so it went on for half an hour before we finally gave a last couple hints (4 letters starting with K, 7 letters starting with R... really obvious ones) then we each guessed. We admitted it and he promptly asked me out. We went on our first date on Friday, three days later. It was both of our first dates ever (I was 16, he was 17). We've been together 3.5 years now.

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Writer4lyfe — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 00:09:46 +0000

We met at a bar singing karaoke. We've been together about 5 years

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alicerabbits — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 00:54:13 +0000

That is so romantic! Awesome story.

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Angelic Disaster — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 02:59:22 +0000

Sometime back in early 2007, I was in a roleplaying sim on Second Life. A Final Fantasy 7, RP sim, to be exact. My character was hanging out in the 7th Heaven bar, and his character started a conversation with her. I even remember thinking "Wow, this guy is a newb" ...but eventually, our characters started to talk more, became friends, all that fun stuff. And then we ourselves started talking more. We discovered one very important thing-- neither of us were interested in online dating. ....You can see where this is going. We RPed together that entire summer, then he abandoned us all for college. I was distraught, and immaturely got mad at him for showing off his college friends and pretending that we were nothing. This lasted until the end of the school year, when he came back to play full time. ...It was that summer, in 2008, that we realized that "Hey, online isn't -that- bad..just until we find some random person in real life." ...Well...come December 2008, I flew him from Georgia to Missouri to meet up for real, and April 9th of this year, we got married. After near-fatal car accidents and weirded out families(Who are now totally okay with this! We both have the best set of in-laws ever!).

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heybluebird — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 21:25:05 +0000

I met my husband while we were camping. We were at a festival on a mutual friend's farm. He was with his friends, I was with mine. Well, one of the people I'd come down with started having a seizure. His wife told us and Will was across the gravel driveway-like path. He was a medic in the army and came over to help my friend. Afterwards, he went back to his campsite, we stayed at ours. One of my friends noticed that we knew someone at his campsite so we went across the way and started talking. Now, the festival we went to was for a Pagan holiday called Beltane -- which is basically a fertilitiy festival. One of the friends I was with noticed Will and pointed him out to me. Then she said something along the lines of you're single, he's single... My exact response was 'ew!'. Well it started raining, he had a campfire, so we spent some time with him. All the while, I was chasing after a different guy and he was into this other girl. The next day, my friends decided to leave because the weather was still wet and muddy. I hadn't finished playing with the guy I was chasing (I know it sounds whore-ish, but whatever). That and they didn't really have room in the car for me (even though I rode up with them... let's not even pretend to understand how that works...) Anyway, Will offered to drive me home the next day since he only lived a few blocks away from me. He also promised my friends that he'd look out for me. We ended up spending almost the whole day talking while chasing after our respective pieces of tail. I started to think he was pretty awesome. I didn't realize I liked him until the campfire that night. He was making out with the piece of tail he was chasing all weekend and I didn't really like it. Didn't stop me from finishing what I started with the other guy but whatever, whole other story. Anyway, he drove me home the next day and helped me take my stuff up to my apartment. I didn't think I'd see him again. The next day, my friends who'd I'd originally gone camping with invited him over to dinner while I was there. We ended up spending every day from that moment on together. We moved in together three months to the day that we met. He proposed on our one year anniversary at the same festival around the camp fire. We got married this June.

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Blythe — Sat, 19 Nov 2011 22:06:08 +0000

Appropriately enough for NaNo - we met in a library! Although we both worked there (it was my Saturday job during sixth form) so it wasn't quite the romantic 'eyes meeting across a crowded bookshelf' scenario...

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goldengreaser — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 01:49:57 +0000

Do not have one yet but my friends joke that we shall meet at a bookstore or an anime con.

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Emma Rosloff — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 02:22:26 +0000

I met the love of my life when I was 18, although we didn't come together until I was 20. I had a deep feeling about him, early on, something I couldn't even put to words - an unexplainable inkling that he was my other half. We met at my first serving job. It's funny, because I had a bad first impression of Luke, and I wasn't even attracted to him initially. It wasn't until six month into being co-workers that I discovered he was a nerd, like me. He offhandedly mentioned his DnD group and when I asked him if I could join, his shock was apparent - clearly, he didn't expect me to be that much of a nerd. It was during that first, initial session that I met his girlfriend - Jen. I knew right away that she was bad news. Jen was an A-Type personality - manic, controlling, needy and prone to mood swings. She just happened to be a nerd girl, too, and everyone put up with her because she was dating Luke and she'd been a part of their group for some time. The weirdest part was that she genuinely seemed to like me, and even tried to become my friend, which made the whole me-falling-madly-for-her-boyfriend thing a lot more awkward. Luke and I grew closer as the two of them grew farther apart. We even started meeting outside of work at a coffee shop, under the pretenses of playing a game together (started out with Scrabble, and then we moved onto Chess. Seriously, we played 5 hour Chess games together). It's hard to describe how seeing him felt - euphoric, to pick a word. The time always flew by, and I'd feel this tearing pain in my chest anytime I had to leave him. I could tell that he felt it too. Over the next year and a half we met and played chess on a regular basis, and we started making each other mix CDs. At first, they were benign, just good music we wanted to share, but over time they started to hold deeper meaning, as if we were both trying transmit how we felt through music because we couldn't use words. In this way, us coming together was kind of unique, we were forced to be close friends and nothing else for the first two years that we knew each other. Eventually, his feelings for me came out after one of our Chess games. He told me he was terrified because he had no idea how I felt, which I thought was hilarious because at that point I knew he was crazy about me. I mean, his face lit up any time I walked into a room, and he complimented on everything I ever wore, even right in front of his girlfriend, to my dismay. We talked for hours that night, and several painful weeks of us not touching each other followed, in which I convinced him that he had to break up with Jen. Not even because of me, but because they weren't right for each other, and he was clearly miserable. In fact, when they finally did break-up, I insisted that he needed time alone, time to be single, before we could start a relationship. I wasn't going to be his rebound. This was unbelievably difficult, because anytime I was around him (and I was, all the time), we were like magnets. He'd already decided on a month long trip to Europe, but before he went, he took me to this magical, hidden spot - in order to get there you have to climb up this huge, concrete arch that supports a freeway, but once you get up there you can hear the roar of the cars on the freeway above, and below there's a beautiful glen of trees and water and insects and frogs. We spent a good portion of the night, there, and all we did was hold each other. Nothing else, not even kissing. I'd seriously never been with a boy who just wanted to know what I felt like. There was nothing sexual about it, in fact he steered clear of certain areas just to demonstrate that he was interested in all of me, not just token parts. And then he went away for a month, and I ached for him every day, even though a part of me felt stupid for waiting for this guy when I didn't know if he'd ever be ready for me or not. I made him a mix CD for the trip, and he sent me postcards telling me that I was his muse. After he got back, he was still distant, and I finally realized that it was no longer because he needed to be single, it was simply because he was afraid of being with me, that something would go wrong, that he didn't deserve it. I knew I had to convince him that what we had was real, that it would last, and that it wasn't worth letting his fears get in the way. He invited me over for dinner one night and I decided to bring my guitar. I ended up playing for him, and I swear it was straight out of a movie, because as I sat there and sang one of the songs I'd put on his Europe CD, he stared at me, thunderstruck, and when I was done he came over, took me in his arms and told me that that was the one song on the mix that had struck him most, the one song that epitomized his feelings for me. He said that he'd tried to get over me in Europe, tried to lock me away in that song. Unwittingly, I'd torn him clean open, and he said that he felt this intense, falling feeling... and that now there was nothing that could keep him from me. The rest is history from there :). Suffice to say he told me he loved me shortly thereafter, and we've been together ever since. And after that initial week that we spent glued at the hip, we literally moved in together right away, and now we share an apartment, and we've never had any real issues. A few fights, but other than that, we're still madly in love, and growing all of the time. I think it's a great love story.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Anfaenger — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 12:41:25 +0000

We met via internet in the IRC channel of an online game. I think the first time we talked together was in a heated exchange on the virtues (or the lackthereof) of pacifism.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Oregon_Rain — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 21:06:20 +0000

I'm afraid I'll never meet anyone, but I'm getting used to that. It's amazing all the strange ways people have gotten together here, and it makes me think that I have no chance if there are so many opportunities and nothing's happened for me.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Sprakit — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 21:29:15 +0000

It was at work. We both worked for a residential treatment facility, he was (still is) the manager of the high security adolescent unit and I was the new therapist. Funny thing though, I had been working at the facility (in a different unit as a floor staff) for almost a year before we met. Anyway, a couple of weeks after I had started he and I were just randomly talking about our weekends and I (as I typically do) went into an overshare conversation about how I spent it getting lost on the way to my friend's baby shower. He asked who the friend was because he knew someone having a baby shower that weekend too...turns out it was the same person! We became friends on facebook after that - knowing that we had a mutual friend made it less awkward. And then a couple weeks later (and several chats on facebook) I got super drunk, texted him, told him that if he asked me out I would say yes. He asked me out the next day, and we've been together ever since! About 14 months!

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

sardonica — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 23:01:35 +0000

Try not to think of it as having no chance, but rather as the chance not having come up yet. Personally I think that the key to meeting someone is allowing yourself to be vulnerable, if that makes any sense. If you're not interested in being in a relationship, that's perfectly ok too :)

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Nastashal — Sun, 20 Nov 2011 23:16:21 +0000

I'm in the same boat. But, I've decided to just wait and see, and not let it ruin my life. I've decided that if I'm still single by the time I turn 30, I will adopt two children and raise them as a single mother. I have nine years for that to happen. A lot can happen in nine years. For now, I'm just going to focus on school, getting a good job, and writing. If a man shows up, he shows up.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Intention — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 03:09:37 +0000

This is probably one of the most inspiring 'significant other' story I've ever head. I love it. Thank you for sharing!

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Intention — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 03:29:30 +0000

You're very right: a lot can happen in nine years. Hell, a lot can happen in one month. Or a week, even. :) And you're still young yet! I'm twenty-two and my first relationship began five months shy of turning twenty-one. No relationships in high school; not even close, in fact. Take heart, though! You never know~

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

MissMaro — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 05:14:24 +0000

Well, I'm not in a relationship right now, but I met my last boyfriend in Latin Class. He was the professor, and he's still my favorite person in the world, so I thought I'd share. :)

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

keithisgood — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 17:10:15 +0000

I met my wife on a study abroad trip to England. She roomed two doors down from me. And although it would be super romantic to say that we fell in love walking Big Ben and the Tate Modern, alas, we were involved with OTHER people in our study abroad cohort. Upon returning to the states, the weird atmosphere of a study abroad dissipated, and we got our respective hearts trampled upon. We hung out in the same circle of friends, though, and eventually went together as friends to her company Christmas party. Dressed to the nines, Etta FItzgerald's 'At Last'... by the end of the night we were much more than friends. That was almost seven years (and two daughters) ago. Wouldn't trade a second of it for all the money (or publishing deals) in the world.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

MysteriousFlower — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 18:46:32 +0000

I wrote a fanfic (A CSI one) and my now wife left a review, offering herself as a beta to help me with my English. We started emailing and chatted on MSN on a regular basis. I had just come out of a long relationship and wasn't particularly looking for anything and neither was she. But things sort of went a romantic way anyway, without us even noticing at first and, after we DID figure it out, we arranged a meeting in Amsterdam. She's from the UK (where I now live too) and she came over for a weekend. We've been together ever since and six months after that first meeting I moved to the UK. We've been together for 4 years, married for 1. Writing gave me my wife. :-)

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Oregon_Rain — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 00:06:12 +0000

So at what age do you start to worry?

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Mews — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 03:00:17 +0000

I met my boyfriend because he was in college with one of my best friends. She said a guy in her class did LARP and sword-fighting, and I wanted to get into that so I asked for his e-mail. We MSNed every night for two weeks and then met up IRL. He was almost 18 then (me almost 19) and had never been in love, but I convinced him. :) And now he doesn't do a lot of sword-fighting or LARP anymore much, haha, even though we have a collection of medieval weapons laying around. I do feel that it becomes harder to meet someone the older you get, because you tend to get into slurs -- I meet new people a lot rarer than I used to when I was a teen, too, despite never going out to clubs or pubs as a youngster (or now). You have to go out of your way a bit more to meet new people.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

sardonica — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 03:31:42 +0000

I think that depends on what your priorities are. Are you interested in being in a relationship? Do you want to be married and have kids that will be old enough to leave the house by the time you hit retirement age? There are a lot of factors involved in when you could potentially start to "worry." When I first started university (seven years ago!?) I was pretty much determined to be engaged by the time I finished. That... really didn't work out. Three years after starting university, I decided that I definitely -didn't- want to be married before I turned 25. And now I -am- 25 and just started my first new relationship in four years this spring, after feeling really keen to be back in a relationship again for probably the past year or so. And we're certainly not planning to get married anytime soon. I didn't end up in my first (irl) relationship until I was almost 20, and prior to that I angsted constantly about being a horrible hag that no one would ever love in a romantic way. Actually, even after that I thought that I was a horrible hag that no one would ever love. It wasn't until I met someone who'd been with a lot of other people and still liked hanging out with me that I was convinced that I had something to offer. And it wasn't until my current relationship that I actually met someone without the help of the internet, so I just found out that that was possible, too. While it's probably not clear from my unnecessary personal rambling, I think my point is that the "meet-cute" is not really all that important. If you want a relationship, there's no shame in seeking one out. Likewise, there's no shame in -not- wanting a relationship.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Mooglies — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 11:37:46 +0000

awwww, this is a sweet story :)

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

lapetitekiwi — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 20:11:17 +0000

I meet mine at the Catholic Chaplaincy at uni almost five and a half years ago, then I conned him into joining the French club executive committee. We got together 6 months later, got engaged 2 and a half years after that and we got married in January.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

nickfly — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 04:55:16 +0000

Met in college. We were in the same program all year and never really talked until the third quarter. This quarter was entirely overseas in Ireland. Within the first week, we were staying in the same dorm room. That was 4 1/2 years ago now.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

TigerCzarina — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 16:22:28 +0000

I met my boyfriend of two years on the first day of my very first university class. He was late for class because his music composition class ran over it's time, and he literally ran into the classroom and fell into the seat next to mine. We talked through calc class and at the end of the period he gave me his number so we could sit next to each other next class (he claims I gave him my number first). We started dating that weekend. We've been happy ever since! =]

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

CheshireKat — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 18:34:05 +0000

I'm boring, we met at work, haha. We both work/ed in IT support, and believe it or not, the stereotype of computer geeks being forever alone is totally inaccurate - almost everyone I work with is either married, engaged, or has been in a long-term relationship for several years. I think it's because we marry each other! Anyway, he was my supervisor, I was an underling. I worked my way through the ranks and eventually he worked up the nerve to talk to me outside of work. We found out that we had a lot more to talk about than just computers, and it just sort of went from there. :) For those in their early 20s who have never been in a relationship before and are worried about being terminally single... don't stress! I didn't get into my first "real" relationship until I was 20, that doesn't make you a freak, it just means you were above the inane pseudo-dating scene in high school. Not to knock high school sweethearts, some of them are made to last, but most people who are "dating" in high school are in such superficial, dramatic relationships that they aren't even worth the time. When it's right, you'll know, and it will have been worth the wait.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

miakakiri — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 13:17:18 +0000

This may sound odd, but my husband and I first met at a drinking party in college. I was 19 at the time, and he was 20 but turning 21 in about a month and a half.... we both drank nothing but Sprite all night. We didn't actually talk much at that party (it was more fun to watch the rest of the guys, who WERE drunk, trying to play videogames) but I had decided from the first time I saw him that he was cute, and I kept an eye on him and hung out with him a LOT over the remainder of the school year. We hit it off and became best friends... and it eventually became more. A lot of our friends were going "Took you long enough" by the time we finally did start dating. At least one friend was like "Wait, you mean you WEREN'T sneaking off for sex all those times you wandered off by yourselves?" (For example, to go get something from his room, which was in a different dorm building than everyone else's, and we inevitably got distracted talking.... or the time we sat in the common room of a dorm neither of us actually lived in at the time, talking, until another friend came in at like 2am and realized I was still there and needed a ride home.) About a year after we first started going out, I moved in with him and a couple other friends... which worked for about 5 months until the other girl and I realized that we're great friends PROVIDED we don't share living space. At that point my then-bf and I moved out on our own, and after about a year of this we got engaged, then married a little under a year later. *^_^*

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Need To Know Bassist — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 06:15:32 +0000

My NaNoWriMo writing group, actually! His cousin did NaNoWriMo and the entire group got along so well that we made our weekly meetings keep going past November. Said cousin asked us if it was okay if she invited her cousin along since she knew he would fit right in with us and we welcomed him with open arms. Four months of awkward flirting later, his trend gets drunk and spills the secret of my now-bf's feelings, then a few nights later I got drunk and threw myself at hi. Romantic, no? It's been almost a year

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Need To Know Bassist — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 06:18:50 +0000

Dangit, hit submit early. It's been almost a year and a half now! We were both single for ages before we got together, so there is always hope!

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Bewitched.Rhapsody — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 19:12:53 +0000

Excuse me for being a teen and barging in here, but that is so amazing. =D

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Sidoniehelena — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 14:03:00 +0000

best story ever, love it!

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Arilella — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 16:12:42 +0000

Ok so I have to share mine: I was 20 at the time that I met my significant other, and I was in my first year at uni, i had just got out of a relationship where the guy had gone AWOL on me and I was quite happy being single for a while. I was single for a month or so before he sent me a message on a online dating site which I had signed up to ages ago in the vague hope of finding someone worthwhile on there. So he messaged me, I messaged him back and after an hour or so of frantically messaging each other we then moved to MSN and then we moved onto Skype in which we had like a 9 hour phone call. That was all 22 months ago! We are now very much in love and happy after a lot of bumps along the way. Only thing is its long distance which sucks, but i do talk to him every day at least, and I cannot wait to go and stay with him for a quiet and intimate christmas this year :)

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

restlesslilly — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 16:29:41 +0000

I first met my husband when we were 14 he had just moved to my hometown in rural PA from Tennessee, but we were just friends in high school. I fell for him but never said anything. We stayed in touch and dated other people for years until sophomore year of college. He was single and my relationship with my college boyfriend had just ended. So, I took a chance and told him that I was interested in him as more than a friend and had been for a long time(4 years actually ha) and he said "What took you so long!?" and told me he felt the same. Our relationship has not been easy. I struggled with past trauma and mental health issues for years. But he was patient and stuck by me. Promised me things would someday get better, and they did! If not for him I seriously would not be alive today. We've been together for almost 6 years now and married for a year. We have 2 beautiful little girls and having them played a big role as well in my healing to be the woman I am now. I feel very blessed to have his love. After years of abuse, rape, and men who ran from me due to my baggage I found a man who truly did love me and stayed by my side through the absolute worst time of my life and saw me through it. No matter what challenges life throws at us, after all we've been through together I feel sure we can make it through anything. There's no way I could ever find a man who would love me as much as he does. Love exists. I used to not believe that until I was with him. I hope everyone who is living lonely hoping to find someone will someday find the long lasting real kind of love I have.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Wildcat1227 — Fri, 02 Dec 2011 19:48:20 +0000

I was picking up my friend who's in the Marine Corp from the airport and driving him up to his temp base before deployment. While he was on his flight, he met another Marine, who was standing there with him when I met him at the gate. When I found out the Marine (Danny) was just going to grab a taxi to head the base even further north, I insisted he ride with me. As we drove up (a two hour drive), we talked a lot about everything. We became very close friends. Three years later, after a particularly bad breakup, he let me move into his off base apartment until the restraining order was approved. We spent a lot of time very close to each other (a one bedroom apartment with a galley kitchen... tiny place!) After I'd gotten out of the mess that was my last relationship, we started dating... its been over a year of the best relationship ever. He's deployed right now, and I can't wait for him to come home.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

anaia — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 03:28:45 +0000

I was in the first year of my law degree, back in 2007. The first year was done locally, and the second and third years in Barbados. One day our constitutional law lecturer (on whom 95% of the girls in my class had a crush) mentioned he had a son around our age, which piqued my interest. One of my guy friends in class said he'd gone to school with the son in question and on a whim I added him on Facebook. I didn't know much about him, but he was pretty cute. We started talking randomly, and it came out that my lecturer's family lived in Barbados and he flew back and forth on weekends to see them. So when I went over to Barbados in late August the next year, my new friend told me about a house party he was having and came to pick me up... (I know where this seems like it's going, but it isn't.) We went back to his house and he was introducing me to his cousins and friends, and I heard him telling someone next door to come over. Cue about fifteen minutes later, I'm standing on the porch talking to his cousin and the most gorgeous human being I have ever seen in my life (I admit I may be biased, but trumpets sounded and angels sang the moment I set eyes on him, no lie) walks up the stairs and says hi. Turns out he was the guy my friend had been talking to next door, and he didn't even live there, he was just visiting a friend. I made it my business to get his number, called him a couple days later, and we started dating somewhat awkwardly. Our relationship became official all of two weeks later on the unfortunate date of September 11th. It's been three years and four months now, and we've been engaged since May 2010. And now the sad part - when my degree finished I had to leave Barbados to come back to do more studying here, and he's now studying/training in the merchant marine in Jamaica and due to the fact that we're both contractually bound to work in our respective countries for a set number of years to pay off our governments, we have seven (!) years of long distance ahead of us before we can even be in the same country for any real length of time again.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

rachelthorn — Sun, 15 Jan 2012 17:35:52 +0000

I met my husband online through hotornot.com. We have been together for 7 years and have two children, ages 6 and 3.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Aeth — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 22:38:25 +0000

I met my fiance on Twitter! We started following each other over witty comments on television-related hashtags, and had been chatting on Twitter for a year and a half when he decided to tag along with his parents who were visiting where I live on holiday. I offered to do something touristy with him on the chance that he got sick of hanging around with his parents - we met for coffee first, I took him to the museum to show off my dad's sword (yes really!) and we ended up taking the ferry out to one of the islands. It was all as friends until the day he was due to leave, and we were sitting in the car waiting for the rain to pass over so he could go get a photo of something touristy, and the chatting, as it occasionally does, somehow turned to kissing. Shortly afterward he called his parents and told them he was staying a few more days and would get the bus home later (16 hour journey!). He moved up here after eight weeks, moved in with me five months later, and we've been engaged since last March. Incidentally, he's the second guy I've ever so much as kissed - and the first was when I was 26. So, y'know, there's always hope. ^_~

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Little_Dust_Bunny — Sat, 11 Feb 2012 02:51:30 +0000

We both volunteer for a dog rescue group. :-) He came in to help with weekend adoption clinics. Before he had moved to the area, he had been running an adoption clinic in a nearby town, so I was glad to have his help. Up until that point I had been running the clinic by myself. We spent a lot of time talking, mostly because I was showing him the ropes, but we eventually worked our way over to more personal topics. We discovered that we had a mutual love of music, history, philosophy, art, and most importantly, animals. We started hanging out socially. He'd buy drinks and we'd go to the rescue office to chat and listen to music. Occasionally I'd go to his apartment 'til the wee hours of the morning to watch movies. We didn't realize we were crushing on each other 'til a few months after we met, and at the time we were both seeing other people. Both of our relationships, however, had been on the rocks well before we'd met, so we decided to end them and start dating each other. The way he asked me out was kinda cute. We were joking about dating, and he just blurted out "You should be my girlfriend". :-p How's a girl supposed to say no to that? We've been together two years now. <3

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

JenWales — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 09:17:37 +0000

I don't have a brilliant story really. We were friends in school and I fell for him. He had an internet relationship at the time so I thought we'd never be together. We became a couple when we were either fifteen or sixteen and now at twenty-three we're still together. We were friends first and I trusted him and cared for him. Then realised I'd actually fallen for him. We don't live together yet but we are hoping to.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Earthsick — Fri, 17 Feb 2012 11:49:35 +0000

With all those threads about happy couples, people expecting, other things I kind of feel left out. I mean, I wouldn't even be able to post in the LBGT thread since wow, I'm asexual and they don't include that one anymore. (On the matter of not starting a new thread for this solpe purpose: Actually, while I'd like to see my sexuality mentioned too, I'm not one who likes to hog the spotlight at all. Also, the percentage of people like me is pretty low.) I sometimes get the feeling the 20s forum is only for relationship topics and nothign else.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

firebird_ysa — Wed, 07 Mar 2012 21:04:03 +0000

About 5 and a half years ago, when we started at University. We were in the same Halls of Residence, on the same course and hung out with the same people. We like to joke that getting together was easier than avoiding each other. He's my first boyfriend and I'm his first girlfriend. Hopefully last too, although he did panic a bit when I told him we'd hit half a decade. Apparently he's not comfortable thinking in potential decades yet!

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

Kerantli — Mon, 26 Mar 2012 19:12:18 +0100

mines rather complicated.. Met my kids father 6 years ago this November when having a drink with an ex. The guy I WANT to be with and love with all my heart.. I met on here last November. We tried being friends, but the more we talked, the more we fell for each other until he kissed me in the train station after my 2nd to last write in. since then, one thing led to another and well, we're trying to sort out our lives enough to move in together with my kids.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

memilypoo — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 20:17:46 +0100

Found mine in college-he was the floormate of one of my friends. I chased after him for over a year until he caved in. Not sure if I overdid it, but sometimes perseverance pays out

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

AltoidStorm — Wed, 16 May 2012 20:40:29 +0100

Cafeteria table my freshman year of high school ... close to 10 years ago. We've been together seven and a half years. Getting married in September :) Sometimes people just fall into your lap.

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

murphyslawyer — Sun, 20 May 2012 06:27:32 +0100

This cracked me up. My boyfriend has had a full beard since he was 17. XD

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

murphyslawyer — Sun, 20 May 2012 06:52:57 +0100

We went to high school together. My house was just outside the bus system's boundaries and his was further still, so from grade ten on, he caught the bus with me. We were friends all the way through and spent a lot of time insisting that we weren't dating--in fact, when one of the guys he hung out with cracked a comment about how "wasn't he going to kiss me" as I walked by, I turned around and smacked the idiot in question on top of the head. I did an extra year of high school while he did his first year of university, and then I went to college and he did his second year. It was sometime that year that things started to change--don't ask me how it happened, but one night we ended up almost butt naked talking to each other online, on video, with my roommate in the room. (She happened to be convinced we were meant to be, and upon figuring out why I had blankets over myself tried to yank them off to "help him out.") Our schools were four hours apart, so we got together with friends on holidays and that was pretty much it, really. Then when we were home for the summer holidays, he asked me one night if I wanted to go to Timmy's (Tim Horton's, for you non-Canadians) for coffee and to let him get songs he wanted off my computer. This was nothing new, so I said sure, and then things got really weird. He sat closer than he usually did; he touched me every now and then, or would brush my hair out of my eyes. By the time he dropped me off at home I was thoroughly confused, but he stopped me from hurrying out of the truck by asking if he was going to get his hug. So I hugged him, and as I had my head on his shoulder, I heard him ask, "... and maybe something more?" After a few weak-kneed, light-headed minutes, I went inside before my mom started flicking the porch lights, or worse yet, came outside. The next day, I waited til his lunch break, then did my best to keep a poker face on for my family while I texted him and asked what the hell we were supposed to do now. He told me that it was up to me, that we could do something casual (which I'd tried and had not enjoyed); that we could date for the summer and be free to see other people when back at school (which seemed like a cheap copout to me); or that we could try an actual relationship, which he said would make him the happiest guy on earth. I warned him that I didn't think I'd be good at it, but we decided we'd give it a shot. And after nearly two years of long-distance, we're now living in the same city. Actually, today marks two full years that we've "officially" been dating. He still moves my hair out of my eyes and tucks it behind my hair when I don't notice that it's getting wild. :)

Re: How did you meet your significant other?

jordan-leeann — Sun, 20 May 2012 20:06:27 +0100

We met in a drama class in high school when I was 15, then bonded more in a creative writing class the following term. Things just sort of fell into place (albeit incredibly slowly) after that.