Young and single!

I remember there being a thread like this 2 years ago and maybe last year... Why don't we have one this year? There are one for parents, for engaged Wrimos, for expecting Wrimos and I kinda feel left out. (Though the brooding topic did catch my eye.)

So I dedicate this topic to singles, whether by choice or by circumstances, I welcome you here! Let's talk about the ups and downs of single life and rant if you feel like it. We understand you, even if no one else does ;)


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For topic-starter, I broke up with my boyfriend 2 years ago, during my first NaNo. However, it wasn't because of NaNo, the relationship didn't really worked out since... a couple of months before. I just wanted to give it a chance, thinking maybe it's just one of those moods I'm in, but it became clear that it isn't the case.
After that, I felt free (again) and relieved, then concentrated on my studies, but now... Now I would really like some development on that field. But again, first comes work. I need to find a job. Or am I overthinking it? *smoke comes out of her ears*

Ugh... I'm single. :(

My fiance broke it off a little over a year ago, 1 month before our wedding. We had been together since high school (9 years) and decided to wait to get married until we were out of school, had jobs and relatively financially stable. While his timing could have been better it could have be much worse (we were about to buy a house) and we are still friends.

But this now leaves me 27, having never been on a date as an adult which terrifies me! We've been broken up for over a year as I said and I haven't been out with anyone. There've been a few potential dates but nothing has ever come of it.

I'm sort of in the same boat with wanting to find a full-time job... I'd rather have my own place and be all set up before I find my "white knight" or "prince charming". But then, how I imagine things isn't always how they play out. I'm tired of the guys who have no jobs, no money, no driver's license, and no car. I refuse to be the sole "bread winner" in the family. I already dated a guy like that once and I ended up paying for the date and I decided that never again would I do that. I ended it when he said "well, you're the one with the job." Yeah, and he's the one looking for a girlfriend. /rant.

Anyway, if he wants to date me, he's gotta shell out the pocket money. I don't want to be taken advantage of. So yeah, I'm single, I'm hoping to find Mr. Right, and I'm only just now beginning to look for him. Before this I was too busy studying and working on grades and stuff. Right now, I'm still in the process of figuring out what I want to do for the rest of my life--teaching preferably which means going back to school for my certification--but I'm at least starting to notice when guys flirt with me. ...though that's still not a guarantee that I'll recognize it when it happens. Sometimes there's a delay. I'm bad at figuring this stuff out--I missed Flirting 101.

I have a lot of guy friends, but no boyfriend. ...we'll see what happens in the next year or so. I have a feeling things are going to change quite quickly.

Ah home sweet (?) home...

So I skipped NaNo last year because I was spending half the month with my then much beloved boyfriend on a rare visit of his to the UK (note to self - avoid dating military men based abroad - it's expensive and complicated) and knew I wouldn't get any writing done whilst playing hostess. We were speaking daily, planning a holiday, talking lightly-but-not-fully-jokily about the future etc... Then in January he decided to call it off. The plan was to stay friends, but that didn't so much work out.

Anyhoo, that left me, a somewhat socially awkward twenty-something, returned to the world of singledom without much of a clue of what to do. I hadn't been dating the military man for that long, but he had been a former 'highschool sweetheart', so there was groundwork already there.

Oh well - more time to focus on NaNo. And the very slightly bitter part of me is quite looking forward to breaking the hearts of my characters in some sort of futile vengeance... Le sigh...

My boyfriend of 5 1/2 years just broke up with me about three weeks ago, so the pain is still kind of fresh. It's especially hard since not long ago we were talking about marriage... I don't really know what happened. We'd been together since right before I turned 18, so since high school.

I joked the other day that if I had to be dumped, now was a good time for it. I'm a full-time student and now I'm planning for NaNo on top of it. If this had been over the summer... it wouldn't have been pretty. Nothing to do but brood all day. Now if I did that I'd never get anything done and I'd fail my classes and that's not really an option. So I'm moving forward, but it sucks a lot. I'm the type who's never liked being single, especially since really all I want is to be a wife and mother, so being single is kind of... counter-productive.

But at least the free time will help in November. :)

I'm single now, was single during last year's NaNo, and single another year before that. My last (and first) relationship lasted almost two years, but ended rather badly, so when we broke up the experience didn't exactly leave me longing to search again. Now that I have a driver's license, I'm considering if I want to attempt a relationship again, but part of me wants me to wait until I have a stable job, home, and can be fully independent (however long that takes). Besides, I'm so shy I don't even know how to meet anybody (and I view dating sites as a last, LAST resort).

I get lonely sometimes, but overall I see being single as a relief. I'm somewhat of a commitment-phobe, the thought of being married/in a very serious relationship rather scares me.

I'm not going to talk about my last relationship. It lasted too long and ended amicably, and me and the dude are still friends. It can be jarring returning to the single life after a long time spent with one individual, if only because the social cues learned from early 20's dating have to be acquired in the period where everyone assumes you already know everything. It took me quite a while to learn simply how to recognize when a man was interested in me... and there's a whole other group of signals to watch for it you happen to be the kind of mad free spirit who occasionally dates within your own gender as well.

I'm fairly successful at being single, admittedly... but I'm also getting kind of lonely. I miss having a humanfurnace to snuggle against for body heat during the long, cold, harried November.

Let's see here... as we all know, I'm just about 20. My last relationship was in my freshman year of high school. It was with my next door neighbor, and then he moved several states away.

I probably sound pathetic. It's just hard for me to talk to guys, or be social at all, really. I really need to work on that. I really dislike being single.

Oh, good, I'm not the only one! I haven't had a real relationship for a while, just odd dates. I am a frenetic sort of person, so I like the free time and enjoy it, but it is lonely. To cope with the fears already voiced in this thread, I have planned out an elaborate single life that includes buying a ticket into space and moving to antarctica, not in that order. So really, it's all win-win.

Hi!

I'm single, loving it, and have no plans to change.

In every one of my relationships, I felt absolutely smothered and crowded out of my own identity. I wasn't "me" anymore, I was "so-and-so's girlfriend." I never had any time for myself and never had my own space. I was once yelled at for not texting my partner every day (although admittedly, that individual was fairly unhealthy in many ways).

So yes. No obligations, no responsibilities, never worrying about being cheated on, or caught "looking" or having to deal with misplaced jealousy. If you ask me, I have it made. :)

Yup. I'm single, partly by choice and partly…I dunno, not? I'm just a really bad girlfriend, so I don't want to put anyone I like through the horror of dating me. I'm not like one of those high-maintenance girls, I'm actually really laid back, I'm just kind of a sociopath when it comes to relationships, and I solve every disagreement with "let's just break up, then." Which I thought was really weird until my brother told me he was the same way, so now I blame our genetics.

Young, single, and pretty happy with it. Haven't had a boyfriend in a while but haven't needed one. And then I moved halfway around the world to another country for at least a year, so needless to say leaving a boyfriend in the states wasn't on my list of things to do. Besides, you have more fun when you're single XD

Happily single. :) I don't really do relationships. I've tried them, but I get bored about two weeks in and so they're pretty self-limiting. Or maybe I'm the boring one, who knows? :P

Single and enjoying it as well. Got out of a rough relationship over the summer, still have feelings for the girl, but don't miss being in a relationship. For anyone who's feeling rough about a breakup, look how much freedom you have and enjoy it :D. It's fun to go out and get bombed without worrying that someone will be angry you had fun. Glad to see some like minded single nanos here.

I had my first relationship ever this year, but she ended it just under two months ago. We're still friends. I still have a few feelings for her, and I'd rather be in a relationship than single in general, but I'm alive. And in a way being single is nice — I can do pretty much whatever I want. I do look forward to Nano coming up. Should help me stay too busy to get very lonely. :-)

I sure hope I find someone eventually, though. A whole slew of my friends have gotten engaged this year! But I'm on the other end of the spectrum — 21 and only just started dating. Eek.

I'm single and tolerating it. It's been a couple of years since my last relationship (four years and expected to get married, got dumped instead) and I have no idea how to date as an adult. That scares the crap out of me. Plus I'm a first year grad student, so I don't have a lot of time to date.

I'm here. Haven't met anyone who suits me in quite a while... there's a lot I like about being single (even in relationships I like a lot of space) but I'm getting tired of it. I know I'm a difficult match, so when I do find the right person, I've got to make it stick.

I'm single and quite happy. Though I wouldn't say no to a relationship, I just don't meet that many people I'd want to be in a relationship with...

Lucky you didn't break up of course of NaNo!!

I'm single, and how I feel about it varies. Right now it's very practical, because I'm looking for a new job and I can move anywhere for it without worrying about someone else. I'm also used to being alone, it's safe and I have a lot of space. However, those are things I would gladly sacrifice for a partner! Because I don't want to be single for the rest of my life.

I had my first and only relationship when I was 21, that was like 4 1/2 years ago! I'm a bit of a loner, I don't have so many friends either (but the few I have is very close). I have had some identity struggle which probably is one reason why. I have a hard time falling for people, and when I do it I fall hard!! I had this crush on my dancing instructor in the beginning of this year and I was quite successful in my communication, I wasn't awkward and clumsy like I always am around pretty people. So that sure was some progress! I asked him out as friends a few times and we had fun on our "dates", but when we had to move apart to different parts of the country because of job and studies, and he wasn't really interested in keeping contact on distance so it kind of fizzled out. I was a bit disappointed but I'm over him now.

I feel like I'm in the same boat as a lot of people here! I've been on a good bit of dates the past year, and just haven't found anyone I'm clicked with, and I've only been out with one guy I was truly interested in. I finally decided that unless I absolutely felt that way again I just wasn't going to date as much as I was. It isn't worth it for the sake of company. I enjoy the freedom of being single, but if someone came along that I felt I had that connection with I wouldn't pass up on it. There are times it would be really nice to have someone to go out with, but I'm content with waiting to find someone I genuinely like, and they me in return, before jumping into dating again.