Date Ideas

I'm writing a love triangle type story and is going out with the "wrong" guy at the beginning because he was the first one to ask her out in an obvious non-friend way. I need ideas for potential dates they could go on.

He's almost ten years older than her (she's in her early 20s, he's in his early 30s) and is subtly trying to get her to change her behavior so that it is more "grown up" and "mature" (it's not that she's immature, she's just young and acts like her age for the most part), for instance whenever they go out to the bar with the other people from the office he orders her a martini because he sees that as the more adult choice, whenever they go out to dinner he orders for her and he always picks an activity that involves exercise in a non-obvious way (ex. dancing) - basically, he never lets her make any decisions for herself. She never says anything to stop him because she feels bad saying something negative to him when he went through all the trouble of setting up these things for her and she doesn't think she has any reason to question his intentions - yet.

If anyone can please give me some date ideas for this type of situation, I would greatly appreciate it.

Possibly an evening at the opera, or the philharmonic orchestra, or even the ballet. Those, though occasionally enjoyable, to me sound like very "grown-up" dates. Oh, or a visit to a museum... something like an exhibition on Basquiat or Max Beckmann. So she can "improve her mind".

A work happy hour; drinks at a hotel bar; ballroom dancing lessons at the local blackbox theater, which he of course donates to annually; skydiving; a fundraiser starring a Frank Sinatra-alike singer where it's black tie and there's old school dancing and dining and drinking all night (but the ladies order Cosmopolitans, the men drink martinis, lol)...

I may have been that youngster dating a thirty-something, except it was like 20 and 36, lol.

He could take her to a concert in the park with a picnic lunch. Or he could take her on a winery tour. If you're near water, he could take her sailing. Or, if it's in a big city, he could take her to events where he knows the people - the theater, an art gallery, a game. In my times as the 15-years-younger date on both coasts, that's what we did.

If you want to enhance the age difference, resort to meeting his friends and contrast their choices in music. That's usually where the age gap was most glaring.

How about a poetry reading, or a bookstore author reading/booksigning by some very intellectual and incomprehensible author...