Date Ideas http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425 edenofalltrades I'm writing a love triangle type story and is going out with the "wrong" guy at the beginning because he was the first one to ask her out in an obvious non-friend way. I need ideas for potential dates they could go on. He's almost ten years older than her (she's in her early 20s, he's in his early 30s) and is subtly trying to get her to change her behavior so that it is more "grown up" and "mature" (it's not that she's immature, she's just young and acts like her age for the most part), for instance whenever they go out to the bar with the other people from the office he orders her a martini because he sees that as the more adult choice, whenever they go out to dinner he orders for her and he always picks an activity that involves exercise in a non-obvious way (ex. dancing) - basically, he never lets her make any decisions for herself. She never says anything to stop him because she feels bad saying something negative to him when he went through all the trouble of setting up these things for her and she doesn't think she has any reason to question his intentions - yet. If anyone can please give me some date ideas for this type of situation, I would greatly appreciate it. Wed, 16 Nov 2011 07:29:59 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_724541 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_724541 fritzoid Possibly an evening at the opera, or the philharmonic orchestra, or even the ballet. Those, though occasionally enjoyable, to me sound like very "grown-up" dates. Oh, or a visit to a museum... something like an exhibition on Basquiat or Max Beckmann. So she can "improve her mind". Wed, 16 Nov 2011 09:31:51 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_725978 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_725978 fritzoid something like the opera date in "Pretty Woman"? Wed, 16 Nov 2011 09:32:43 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_725990 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_725990 littledupont A work happy hour; drinks at a hotel bar; ballroom dancing lessons at the local blackbox theater, which he of course donates to annually; skydiving; a fundraiser starring a Frank Sinatra-alike singer where it's black tie and there's old school dancing and dining and drinking all night (but the ladies order Cosmopolitans, the men drink martinis, lol)... I may have been that youngster dating a thirty-something, except it was like 20 and 36, lol. Thu, 17 Nov 2011 07:27:37 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_739883 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_739883 pegleg kitty He could take her to a concert in the park with a picnic lunch. Or he could take her on a winery tour. If you're near water, he could take her sailing. Or, if it's in a big city, he could take her to events where he knows the people - the theater, an art gallery, a game. In my times as the 15-years-younger date on both coasts, that's what we did. If you want to enhance the age difference, resort to meeting his friends and contrast their choices in music. That's usually where the age gap was most glaring. Thu, 17 Nov 2011 14:11:20 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_744674 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_744674 Blakesley How about a poetry reading, or a bookstore author reading/booksigning by some very intellectual and incomprehensible author... Fri, 18 Nov 2011 18:30:52 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_760386 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_760386 pegleg kitty Yes - but only if it's her idea. She's out to impress someone who's already confident with himself. If he's not confident, then he's nothing more than a dirty old man and she's just a gold-digger. Not very appealing if she's supposed to be a sympathetic character, though it may be OK if she's an antihero or a side character who's supposed to be unlikeable. She is young and allowed to make young mistakes. If he's a nice guy who likes her for who she is, he will help her save face. Sun, 20 Nov 2011 14:28:53 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_783454 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/chick-lit/threads/37425?page=1#forum_thread_comment_783454