Do you get aroused when you write sex scenes?

dancer_kirsten — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 06:49:12 -0600

I went through the pages, but I don't think this topic exists yet. Anyway ... Do you get aroused physically when you write sex scenes? I do, I can't help it. Maybe because I get to write down sexual fantasies, and my characters are pretty much like me (only more attractive, better socially, and on the whole just ... better), so I get to have sex vicariously through them. ;) So, how about you?

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involuble — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 08:11:27 -0600

Yes, I do! I read a guide on writing erotica several years ago claiming that you shouldn't be turned on while you're writing sex scenes, but that's one of the silliest rules I've ever heard. I figure if it doesn't excite me, I'm not doing it right, you know? ;)

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Janeway — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 10:36:05 -0600

Oh yes, definitely :)

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nodgene — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 12:52:58 -0600

*laughs* If you do not get aroused, is it worth writing? :D I think it's a good lesson for other writing. The purpose of writing is to force a reaction emotionally. Arousal is I dare say easier than other emotions and physical responses to trigger, but all scenes ought to make the reader feel, ideally with a similar intensity. Although that's probably not always achievable consistently.

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SweaterGrrrl — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 13:45:11 -0600

I've mentioned this before, but I had to put down the thesaurus in the middle of writing a sex scene. How could you not be aroused?

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fantasychallange7 — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 14:36:52 -0600

Yeah, usually, except when I write from my MMC's perspective. Then when I go back to edit stuff in I'm sure to make it sexier for extra measure, just in case. ;D

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GatsbyGal — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 17:54:42 -0600

>> I read a guide on writing erotica several years ago claiming that you shouldn't be turned on while you're writing sex scenes Well that's just absurd! I think that author is just doing it wrong.

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mollyyymo — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 18:11:40 -0600

Agreed. That author probably writes some very sad erotica.

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nyroeon — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 18:49:17 -0600

No, but I do find myself happy while writing a good one.

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GatsbyGal — Wed, 23 Nov 2011 21:06:45 -0600

He put it in her. She liked it. "Yes, that's nice," she said. "Thank you," he said. "Okay, I'm done now," she said after a couple minutes. "As am I." They got up to make some toast.

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Harlow — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 00:00:54 -0600

I actually wrote a sex scene in front of my boyfriend and awesome things happened. Needless to say, I get some enjoyment out of writing sex scenes. It also makes for a much more vivid descriptor.

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Imahydin — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 01:21:19 -0600

There is a similar thread a bit down, just less obviously named. ;) It asks if you get "distracted" as opposed to aroused. Anyway, on one of my scenes I was writing it at work, so I made a special point of not being aroused. Which I'm afraid may have hurt the scene. I'll go back over it sometime and sex it up if I need to. The next sex scene that happened to get itself written at work I didn't worry as much about getting aroused as I did about getting caught getting aroused. I think it turned out better.

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leejamlee — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 02:46:47 -0600

Nope, I do not. I suppose its because its my own writing and so there is a total absence of anticipation or curiosity since I'm planning all the details of it. And I certainly don't believe there is anything wrong with not becoming aroused like some have light heartily suggested or that its somehow an indication of having written a cold or stiff erotic scene. Likewise, I don't believe there is anything wrong with becoming aroused while writing the scene. I can see why some writers might be aroused by that aspect of control and the ability of exploration during the writing process. Imagination can be a powerful thing! Or writers who just plain become excited in general while writing anything erotic or sensual. However, for me writing a sex scene is like writing a fight scene or a scene where characters are having a conversation.

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pythie — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 13:38:04 -0600

Yes, each time I write or elaborating a scene. I may sound perverse and I don't understand but I seems to be in a horny period. Writing a erotica story seems to do that on me, I feel more aroused. It's the first year that I do it and the first time ever that I do so many sex scene. Last year, I had done one or two for my story. It was hot but this year, it seems to be a long sensual, sexual sex scene all along. It's just in the beginning of the story that I was less aroused as I was making things fall into places and getting things going on. Now, my engine is started and is full speed ahead.

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ivan_durkin — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 13:54:50 -0600

Yes. I cry with my characters, I laugh with my characters, I grief and get happy with them - I share their emotions in myself so I naturally get horny when they do, too.

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AmyPReed — Thu, 24 Nov 2011 18:35:22 -0600

Most of ... I mean, all of my NaNo wins were because of lots and lots of sex scenes. And yes, I get aroused when I write them. LOL

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Shazanon — Fri, 25 Nov 2011 15:25:43 -0600

Yup. If I can't arouse myself, how can I expect to arouse my readers? That's how I see it. ;-)

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Ramzuiv — Sat, 26 Nov 2011 05:04:13 -0600

We so need a like button.

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Aklo — Sat, 26 Nov 2011 06:28:38 -0600

I usually get more aroused planning sex scenes than writing them, but it usually does get me aroused a little bit. One time, when I was travelling with my boyfriend and a friend of his, I was writing a sex scene while having breakfast by myself, and then the friend showed up and it definitely felt to me like he had caught me doing something naughty, even though he had no idea.

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el jefecito — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 23:49:23 -0600

I definatly get aroused when I write a sex scene, I generally have to do some research with my girlfriend. She is also writing a NaNoWriMo selection. We read our stories back and forth and sometimes have to stop for research. I might be motivated by having sex with her. Her stories are not generally sexual in nature, but do include sex on occasion.

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roruna — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 14:55:43 -0600

yes! I'm not the only one. I definitely get aroused while writing or 'researching' sex scenes. This is the main reason that my husband is so supportive of my doing nanowrimo. He looks forward to November more than I do. XD

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Coffeedrinker — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 13:50:42 -0600

Of course. If it doesn't arouse me the scene isn't well-written.

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Relocation — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 14:47:53 -0600

Apparently I answered this elsewhere but not here. Yes, that's how I know they're good. I don't get very aroused in retrospect though, when I reread, although I do when I read other people's erotica a second or third time. I guess I remember the thoughts writing it, and it doesn't feel fresh. My boyfriend reads them over and over though, and I've had some good comments on things I post, so I assume it's not just me doing it wrong. Some girl told me it made her come, yay?

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Dennis Jernberg — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 02:20:58 -0600

Of course I get aroused. Otherwise I can't write sex scenes, or (even worse) they turn out "IKEA erotica". The same goes for fight scenes. But then, my novel runs on pure concentrated passion as rocket fuel.

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WolfenM — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 17:37:16 -0600

Most definitely. In fact, I hold off on writing sex scenes if it's not a convenient time or place to be aroused. Also, sometimes being aroused inspires me to write!

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bradyac — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 20:57:05 -0600

haha, I agree with Ramzuiv...a like button is a def need right now!

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Olivia44 — Fri, 09 Dec 2011 06:38:50 -0600

*lol* Even MINE are more ... appealing and ... engaging *snickers* and I usually don't have it with sex scenes. However, for this NaNo they were necessary and it was both fun and embarrassing to write them. Fun, because I enjoyed it ;D when writing them, and embarrassing after rereading them yesterday. *lol*

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A.L. More — Thu, 29 Dec 2011 17:47:11 -0600

Forget getting aroused by sex scenes. I'm getting aroused by just writing the outline to the novel I'm planning on writing for Camp NaNo.

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IttyBittyKitty — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 15:09:49 -0600

Ab-so-lute-ly! And if I'm gonna write it, I've got to try it out first. DH is extremely enthusiastic about the fact that I'm writing a book. :^)

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murphyslawyer — Sat, 04 Feb 2012 23:32:12 -0600

If I don't, it's not good enough! ;)

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Voirey-Linger — Mon, 06 Feb 2012 07:40:13 -0600

I seem to be the odd woman out. No, I never get turned on. Not even a little bit. When I'm in the writing process, my brain is in work mode. I'm more focused on the flow of the language than if it sounds sexy. I've heard all the advice to get in a sexy mindframe to write. That just feels silly to me. I understand it works for others but I can't see how. To each his own, right?

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ashleynichols — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 09:25:36 -0600

Yes, to the point where I avoid writing them in public. I frequently carry a hard copy of my novel around with me--so I can edit it during downtime on the bus and such--and always fear that I get a creeptastic expression when rereading/editing/writing that kind of scene.

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MrZiggles — Sat, 10 Mar 2012 19:59:50 -0600

Yes. That's what makes writing them so ... hard.

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-valkyrie- — Fri, 16 Mar 2012 05:19:34 -0500

Usually, yes (except for my first sex scene, which was written so badly that I doubt that anyone gets aroused from it ^^). But I hardly ever write sex scenes, as erotica and romance are not the genres I'm usually writing in (I think I can count all the sex scenes I've ever written on one hand ^^).

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Silenia — Mon, 09 Apr 2012 19:35:30 -0500

No, not really. I sometimes get aroused when thinking up the scene (in the cases where I think it up before writing it down). I usually get aroused when I read it over later (as in, a while after I've written it, not moment after); if not, something tends to be wrong with it (or it's the kind of scene that wasn't meant to be arousing) most of the time. During the writing itself, however? Rarely. Probably because I'm in a different mindset then. Which is why when writing them I mainly focus on if it makes sense (such as preventing sloppy things like someone putting off their glasses twice, etc.), and I check whether or not it's sexy/arousing later, during the first read-over.

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thrilleraddict — Fri, 20 Apr 2012 18:44:03 -0500

I thought I was so weird to get aroused. XD Phew, thank God I'm not the only one.