What does edging feel like? http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/erotic-fiction/threads/50248 kdeslvo If there's one thing I have trouble with doing personally, it's edging. I can't do it, every time I try to back off, my brain goes into overdrive and I end up coming anyway. So alas, my experience is lacking in that area, but it is something that I'd like to write. This is the specific scenario: my MC and his boyfriend are in different countries at the moment, so they're getting off together for the first time via phone sex. The MC's close to coming when his boyfriend orders him to wait for him and slow down. So my MC's forced to stop what he's doing and try to hold off. And like I said, I can't capture that feeling myself, since I can't do it -- so I could really use some help in explaining that sensation and figuring out what it feels like to hold back! Help? Tue, 14 Feb 2012 22:24:02 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/erotic-fiction/threads/50248?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1141174 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/erotic-fiction/threads/50248?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1141174 Dav1d Hmm, it's all about control, power play, in your case self control. What are you really good at? What do you know well? What are you in charge in? Ever eat just one chip? There are certainly other outlooks! (Fear and surrender come to mind) for some people it is all about build to that peak, when it pops, and then it's over... For others it's about skating on the edge, how close can one come to their peak without going over the edge, and then remaining there... I could say it's a sign of maturity evidence that one is in charge and control, rather than a giving of control to another, being a passenger just along for the ride. It's like driving a high performance car on the edge, pushing it, but knowing ones own limitations so well, and the road so well, that one can drive near the edge without loosing it. It is the thrill... Hope that helps. Sat, 18 Feb 2012 07:05:21 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/erotic-fiction/threads/50248?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1149647 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/erotic-fiction/threads/50248?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1149647 andresanthomas To steal a line from the classic Where Do I Come From, they describe orgasm like the need to sneeze. So, picture the feeling that you need to sneeze, but then don't, but need to sneeze, then don't, but really, really, really need to but don't. Mon, 20 Feb 2012 11:31:39 -0800 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/erotic-fiction/threads/50248?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1156375 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/erotic-fiction/threads/50248?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1156375