Scared of My Own Character (How Far is Too Far?) http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/romance/threads/50023 Transcendent So... A bit of background. Alternate America. There are werewolves. Werewolves become werewolves by drinking (or being forced to drink) werewolf blood. Werewolves can turn into wolves whenever they wish afterwards (except the new moon), but it's harder in the day time. They absolutely must turn the night of the full moon, and cannot turn back into human form until after the sun rises. The day before, of, and after the full moon, werewolves have hair-trigger tempers and they always have a sort of Blood Knight thing going on when they fight. Now, here's the thing. One of the characters in my story is a werewolf. His name is Boaz and he's the husband of the main character. He was forced to be a werewolf when he was in his late teens, and met his wife, Kali, when he was in his early thirties and she was in her early twenties. Generally speaking, he has an excellent rein on his emotions and is a very nice guy. The thing is, I can see those hair-trigger days being... difficult. Perhaps even violent. At the very least I can see them getting into arguments where he breaks stuff. Objects, not bones, but still. Now, I'm not really sure how to feel about that. I mean, it's like when I picture any other point in their relationship, it's fine. Affectionate and respectful and lovely. But when I try to imagine what those three days out of the month are like, it's all punching the walls and yelling at each other. It's actually a bit scary. I'm worried that I'm trying to excuse potential abuse between my characters because I'm so fond of them. Boaz is one of my favorite characters in my brain right now and I don't want to act like he's blameless and they're fine because of it. /sigh/ Does that even make sense? I mean, am I making too big a deal out of this? Wed, 08 Feb 2012 20:46:28 +0000 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/romance/threads/50023?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1124475 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/romance/threads/50023?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1124475 vampyre_smiles Maybe on those days, he takes some alone time. Healthy relationships don't mean "with each other all the time", and in fact, I'd say THAT would be a sign that it's a little dysfunctional. Maybe not by itself, since different people have different needs, including how much they are around each other. But in combination with "if I stay, I might hurt you/you might hurt me", then yeah, dysfunctional. Does he have hobbies that she doesn't share? Especially if he likes camping (I know, stereotype), or other things where he probably won't be around other people much at that time. Wed, 08 Feb 2012 23:56:04 +0000 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/romance/threads/50023?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1124912 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/romance/threads/50023?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1124912 Transcendent I guess what was freaking me out was that whenever I thought "what happens these days?" I saw them fighting. XD The idea that he would go out somewhere is completely logical and thus completely beyond my mental capacity to figure out by myself. XD Thu, 09 Feb 2012 01:33:24 +0000 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/romance/threads/50023?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1125102 http://www.nanowrimo.org/en/forums/romance/threads/50023?page=1#forum_thread_comment_1125102