I started wondering over long lost relationships. Not the kind of, where there are two sides involved, but the ones you live through in your head, without the other part ever knowing about it. You know, seeing the pretty boy, daydreaming, that kind of stuff. Though you'd say, I see pretty person every day, daydream and go to new one (which can also be), the ones I mean, are those, where you know there will be nothing between you and you don't make any attempts to do anything, but in your head, it's like you've been their girl/boyfriend for long time and the fact that they have one in real life doesn't make you jeallows (most of the time).
Therefore I would like to do a little questionnaire about it as this idea has started to interest me.
1. Who was the "chosen" one? (Male/Female, Age, were they younger, older. Were you younger/older than they were)
2. What was it about them that made you notice them?
3. How did it start? (Pumped against them, noticed them from far, did it develop over time?)
4. How long did it last (something you'd referre to as onenight stand or something over longer time)?
5. In your dreaming, did you change something about their appearance?
6. What did you dream about relating to them? Was it daily situations, more sexual schenes, romantic situations? Please describe one or few.
7. Did you have conversations in your dreams or was it more to do with admiring?
8. Did you wished to grow old with them, though knowing they were mere fantasy partners?
9. How did you feel, when after one of those fantasy sessions you happened to pump in with them somewhere?
10. Besides daydreaming, did they blend in your resting time dreams too?
Feel free to answer questions with more than one sentence and if feeling so, add to them.
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"Imagination is more important than knowledge, for knowledge is limited while imagination embraces the entire world." - Einstein
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Feb 15, 2008 - 08 38
hey there! I must say you have put quite an interesting questionnaire . And I am sure that 90% of us here have had these kind of crushes and get our own satisfaction out of it ( I know satisfaction sounds wierd but thats something unexplainable :) ) .
Here's what I have personally felt and that person is a good friend of mine infact...
1) Male. Younger to me barely 20 days so it dint affect me much.
2) Initially it had been the looks but he turned out to be a nice person too. :)
3) It developed over time undoubtedly.
4) It has been for quite sometime now. We are pretty good friends now and I have tried my best not to let him know about my secret little infactuation .
5) No changes.
6) Its been more of daily situations. But sometimes romantic situations too strike hard and leave me dreaming for a very long
time.
7) well I talk to him daily, more as a friend though..
8) Nope.
9) Its happened loads of times that I would be thinking of him and he would just call and say "hey! whats up??"
10) Nope nope.
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Feb 16, 2008 - 10 02
The person whom I have mentioned about above is not a fantasy partner but an existing human being. I have put up my present experience with it because I am going through that phase and I feel for the first time that this is better than a mere fantasy.
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Feb 20, 2008 - 07 42
My gosh this is like, my life! It's all I've ever done. Mostly it's with celebrities though. But I suppose the biggest/most recent one start September 2006 when I moved into new halls of residence for my 2nd year at university. One of the residential assistants there. Like whoa. He was pretty hot and had amazing eyes and hair when it wasn't cut too short lol. Oh I'd live through various things with him in my head but apart from being asked to sign my name on the form when I moved in, I never spoke to him. It started when I was moving in, I went into reception, looked into the office, didn't know where to go, then there were two residential assistant behind a table and I saw him and he smiled as if to say I needed to go there. I probably have a false memory of that smile but that smile nearly keeled me deaded.
After that, I barely even saw him but I was pretty obsessed, even right until I moved out in the May. Recently I've been thinking about him again. It was never to be! He didn't know I existed (though I suppose on the few occasions I saw him it may have been obvious that I was close to melting haha) and I believe he's moved back to his home country *sigh*
Poor thing, if he only knew haha.
----------2007: After Midnight. Coming of age drama with a dash of fantasy. And romance. And everything else.
2006: Come With Me. Pirate Fantasy Adventure Romance. Uncompleted at ~40,000
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Feb 21, 2008 - 08 12
I so very understand what u mean!! Encounters like this really leave a huge impact. And it comes to the mind a million times.. bla! I have loads of these in which one sight of that person would just make my day..* smiling*
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Mar 1, 2008 - 01 29
1. Who was the "chosen" one? (Male/Female, Age, were they younger, older. Were you younger/older than they were). The love of my life(as I completely believe he is, albeit VERY unrequited :( )
2. What was it about them that made you notice them? His incredible blue eyes, his ultimate forbidden-ness(he was dating one of my friends when it first started, now he isn't).
3. How did it start? (Pumped against them, noticed them from far, did it develop over time?) 12 words: "Hey, I like your earrings, they're really pretty, they match your eyes."
Back-story on why that was so special: I'd been wearing them for a month and NO ONE not even my mom or my grandparents noticed my earrings, and HE did, and I never talked to him before that night when I was wearing those earrings(they were dangle-y and blue)
4. How long did it last (something you'd refer to as one-night stand or something over longer time)? One year and 116 days since the first day I fell for him, and it's only getting deeper and faster as time goes on. I don't see myself getting over him for a really, REALLY long time.
5. In your dreaming, did you change something about their appearance? Maybe his hair an inch longer, I hate it when he had it buzzed. Yicky.
6. What did you dream about relating to them? Was it daily situations, more sexual scenes, romantic situations? Please describe one or few. Well last night I dreamed that he loved me and wanted to be with me forever, needless to say when I woke up I bawled my eyes out. Before I ever really felt anything for him(when I still loved seeing him and his old girlfriend together) I had a dream I lost my virginity to him. It had to be the hottest dream I've ever had, I was so pissed when I woke up. lol
7. Did you have conversations in your dreams or was it more to do with admiring? Both. But it was more me admitting that I loved him, and he admitting that he loved me. *rolls eyes*
8. Did you wished to grow old with them, though knowing they were mere fantasy partners? Oh hell yes. I wish I could marry him so badly. He's 3 years older than me, which really isn't that big of a difference because I'm 17. I would do anything to spend the rest of my life with him. I love him so much.
9. How did you feel, when after one of those fantasy sessions you happened to pump in with them somewhere? I feel like my head-over-heels love for him was even greater, and it hurt even more. But he's the only person I ever trusted to tell my secrets to. I miss him so much(he's in college now).
10. Besides daydreaming, did they blend in your resting time dreams too? Oh yeah, they blend in everywhere. Every time I'm awake I can't stop thinking about him.
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