Okay, so one of my MC's gets pregnant in the story (story spans several years) and the biggest problem (no pun intended) that I hit is sexual positions while pregnant.
I know they say that the best bet is laying down, spooning together but the simple fact is, that gets boring. So I was hoping for some more personal stories; what's possible, what's not, and what works for you?
Also, anything I'd have to avoid that I might not necessarily think about?
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Though lovers be lost, love shall not,
And death shall have no dominion.
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Dec 8, 2007 - 17 51
I haven't been pregnant, but I can tell you two things: it'll probably be easier when she's on top, and if maneuvering around her stomach is an issue, they probably shouldn't be having sex. Orgasms late in a pregnancy can trigger labor. Not sexy.
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Dec 8, 2007 - 20 54
Not sexy...maybe. But a godsend when you want to get...that...kid...OUT!
Doggy style is good during pregnancy. Less pressure on the back, as well as being lots of fun. :-)
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Dec 8, 2007 - 21 09
Many years ago when I was married, my then pregnant wife and I tried a variety of positions. The best position being doggie style or I penetrating her from behind is the one we did often. The large stomach was out of the way since she was on all fours, the only difficulty for her was getting up from being on her knees, it was a strain on her back. I would help her get up or she would carefully and slowly lay down on the bed. We did that during both pregnancies. I hope it helps.
I love your quote at the end of your post. Did you write it?
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Dec 8, 2007 - 23 32
Girl on top is good in the early months, bad later. Doggie, good all the way though, just add pillows. And spooning has a whole huge range of angles that can be played with, so that it really doesn't get boring.
My favorite is a variation of girl on top where I put my legs out in front of me and sat on him then leaned back until my hair brushed the bed while he sat up. Holding each other's forearms helps with leverage here. That gives a nice angle and keeps penetration from being quite so cervics smashingly deep.
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Dec 8, 2007 - 23 35
They could do it if she used a pillow or something to prop up her hips while he was on his knees, they make special wedge pillows to enhance a lot of positions and I imagine they would be great to have during pregnancy to make more position available or more comfortable. If she's flexible enough she could lay on her side with one leg up while he's on his knees. In all honesty the only two I don't see them being able to do easily is straight missionary or with her laying on her stomach. I just asked a friend what he did while his gf was pregnant, his response "Whatever she wanted." He said it didn't really limit most positions but it did change how demanding she was and made her more dominant.
Oh and just a thought, but sex in water would probably take a good portion of the strain off of her back and legs. It's one of the first ways my husband and I could be intimate after I was in an accident that tore muscles and nerves in my lower back because I didn't have the pressure that laying down or being on all fours put on my back.
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Dec 8, 2007 - 23 56
Well I'm just an inexperienced guy, but allegedly, according to the highy reliable internet, sex is just fine right up until the waters break, unless your doctor has specifically told you otherwise, which he will do if you had complications before, have unexplained bleeding, or have a low-lying placenta.
I did some fair research on this one because I wrote a scene where the MMC and FMC had very-late term pregnancy, only minutes before her waters broke due to an unrelated emotional trauma. I wanted to find out how likely, and reasonable, this was. Answer: perfectly reasonable.
All the pregnancy advice websites I could find that spoke of this, were very pro-sex, done carefully and gently. Google "sex positions in late pregnancy" - this seems to be a question that most couples ask at some time :)
http://www.babyworld.co.uk/information/pregnancy/sex_pregnancy/sex_durin...
Has notes on safety, positions, and alternatives...
http://pregnancyandbaby.com/pregnancy/baby/How-late-in-pregnancy-is-it-s...
"it is good for you to have intercourse during pregnancy because it can help to keep you and your partner close, it prepares your pelvic floor muscles for delivery, it can help with any body image issues by feeling sexy, and, lastly, it's nice to have this closeness with your partner now, as once the baby arrives, it's a lot more difficult to find the time and energy to devote to each other"
http://www.babycentre.co.uk/pregnancy/isitsafeto/makeloveexpert/
"love-making releases the hormone oxytocin into your bloodstream. Oxytocin helps your cervix to get ready for labour, and in very late pregnancy can trigger off contractions. Semen as well, which is rich in the natural prostaglandins that help the uterus to contract, could also help to start labour. This is perfectly safe if your pregnancy is progressing normally"
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Dec 9, 2007 - 06 02
OOoh, thanks for the help and links, guys, they're great :-D
And no, it's not my quote; Dylan Thomas "Death shall have no dominion" (Google it; it's good!)
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Dec 15, 2007 - 11 52
Orgasms in pregnancy will not trigger labor. They CAN trigger contractions at any point during pregnancy, but contractions do not mean labor.
There is a protein in sperm that can help ripen the cervix, but that won't trigger labor unless your body is ready to go anyway. Sex during the last week of pregnancy is often recommended as a natural way to "induce" (read that as trigger what was going to happen anyway a little bit earlier) labor.
Sec becomes trickier when pregnant. Vigorous sex may have to be avoided because of the risk of bleeding, although it won't harm the baby. I had a rather rough pounding a few weeks ago that triggered a bit more bleeding than I was comfortable with, but there was no damage and I didn't go into labor.
Vaginal dryness can also become an issue, something that can continue after delivery if the mother is breastfeeding.
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Feb 20, 2008 - 17 36
Try this:
The pregnant lady lies on her side. The guy faces the girl, straddling her lower leg, and lifts the receiver's upper leg on either side of the body onto the crook of his elbow or onto his shoulder. This would be very comfortable, especially during pregnancy.
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Apr 21, 2008 - 19 30
Spooning does get slightly tiresome and boring. When I was pregnant with my last child my husband and I still enjoyed an active sex life. There are still plenty of positions I think that will still give both pleasure, are safe and are fun. Doggy style is still safe and can be fun, but you have to be gentle and not nearly as rough as when your not pregnant. Then theres of course the girl being on top which was one of my favorites because I could control the pace and could control how comfortable I was.
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